With every argument, every tear, every complaint, my anger was patience was going down while my anger bubbling up higher and higher. For some reason, I felt as though I was teetering the edge of yelling every day.
These are such simple things, I kept reminding myself. Take a deep breath and relax. Have you ever had those moments of struggle where your patience just runs thin?
Parenting is hard work and many times we throw ourselves so fully into it, that we forget to take care of ourselves. Over the years, I have learned that these moments when I feel as though I am going to lose it, are warning signs to myself. My body is trying to tell me to slow down and relax.
Have I taken time for myself lately?
Almost every time when I ask this question, the answer is no. When I do not take time for myself, I am running on almost empty gas. There is no possible way to continue to pour out into those around me when I am running low myself.
So how do we avoid getting these warning signals? We start taking care of ourselves. It is a hard thing. As a parent, we can get lost in the lie of believing that it is selfish of us to talk about self-care, but it is pivotal that all parents practice it.
Think with me for a minute, would you rather take a little time for yourself and then feel filled and excited to be with your family? Or would you rather take no time for yourself and live a frustrated and resentful life?
Are you ready to take care of yourself?
Ask yourself what would fill you up? Reading, riding a bike, coffee with friends, the gym, etc. Make a list of all of these things.
Talk to your spouse about these. If you are married, then you need to work as a team. Have him/her make a list as well and talk about how you can make time for each other to practice these things.
Schedule the activities in and do them!
All it takes is three simple steps and you can start practicing self care today! You can let go of the angry parent role and step into the fulfilled parent role. It can be easy to stop losing your temper when you take care of the things that slowly creep up on you... take care of you and you will be ready to take care of everything else.