The Perfect Date Night for New Parents

Loretta Jane

If you are a new parent, you are no doubt feeling like you’ve been on quite a roller coaster ride for the past few months! Nothing can change your life quite like a baby. If you do have a spare Friday evening, you might feel like sleep should be the priority. However, a “date night” might actually do more good than sleep. A fun night out, just the two of you, can provide you with some well-deserved fun and relaxation, which will not only help you to feel refreshed but can help you reconnect with your loved one. Even the act of getting dressed up to go out instead of wearing pajama pants can do wonders for your outlook.

Start the Night Off Right

Is there a better way to start date night than with presents? No, there's really not. Show that new father how much you appreciate him, perhaps with a gift such as a sport watch or a gift certificate for a game of golf at his favorite course. And of course, men, don’t forget that new mom! Jewelry is always a nice idea but so is a gift card for an expert massage. A gift they can keep forever is a great way to commemorate your love for each other, as well as this new chapter in your life, and a gift card for something they would enjoy shows that you know them and what they would enjoy doing.

Find the Perfect Spot

A special night at a fancy restaurant and then the opera sounds like a lovely idea. But it doesn’t have to be some momentous, huge event to be fun and relaxing.

Where did you go on your first date? It would be awfully romantic to revisit that evening, even if it involved nothing more than a fast food restaurant or a baseball game. You could even pack a romantic picnic and go to a favorite park to enjoy it. Make sure you’ll be there at sunset for maximum romance and memorability.

Allow One Call to the Babysitter

Even if your babysitter is the baby’s quite capable and loving grandma, you might be a bit nervous leaving your baby. It’s a natural instinct, but don’t let it ruin your evening! Call once to check in if you need to ease your mind, and then go back to enjoying your date night. After all, grandma has experience with babies or she wouldn’t be a grandma.

Don’t Push It

Yes, you should get out of the house and have fun; no, you shouldn’t stay out until 3 in the morning just because you can (unless you want to!). There’s no shame in getting home early, if that’s what you want to do. You may not feel like the party animal you once were, and that’s OK. You shouldn’t feel obligated to relive those wilder days (at least not on your first night back out into the world).

Make It a Weekly Event

Once you’ve had your first date night as new parents, you may find that you want to make it a weekly thing. It’s a great idea! Booking that babysitter in advance for many Friday nights to come gives you and your partner something to look forward to every week (while you’re cleaning up those dirty diapers every little bit helps) and ensures that you will continue to bond, just like you did before the baby came along.

What does the perfect date night look like for you as a new parent? No one can really answer that but you. The important thing is to not put too much pressure on yourselves to have fun. You’re going to be tired and you’re going to be thinking about your baby – it’s only natural. But it is also important to take that first step, get out of the house, and take some time for just the two of you. In the end it will make you better partners and better parents.