How Your Children Can Develop Self-Confidence

Jasmine Williams

Love your child. This seems obvious, but it is possibly the most important thing. Even if you do it imperfectly--and who doesn't? Dole out plenty of love. Your child needs to feel accepted and loved, starting with the family and extending to other groups such as schoolmates friends, sports teams, and community. If you yell or ignore or create some parenting mistake, give your child a hug and tell her you're sorry and you love her. Love builds a foundation for confidence. Teach resilience. No one succeeds all the time. There will be setbacks and failures, pain and criticism. Take advantage of these hurdles as learning experiences as opposed to dwelling on the events as failures or disappointments. Children will learn setbacks are a part of life and may be handled that. Do not smother him with shame, if your child does poorly on a test or inform him that he will never be a great reader. When he does succeed, he'll take pride. Read More: Professional Tips on Raising a Happy and Healthy Child As it's a challenging time. Over one out of every five students say they've been bullied. Pressure for kids to achieve academically is at an all-time large. That strengthening your child's self-esteem is so essential. Self-confidence comes from a feeling of competence. A child wants a positive and realistic perception of their abilities. This arises out of achievements, small and great. Your encouraging words can help develop this confidence, especially once you consult with your child's specific efforts or abilities. 6. Instill experience and independence. Children are willing to try new things without fear of failure. With younger children, you'll have to supervise from the sidelines. Set up where she can do things for herself and be sure the situation is safe--but then give her space. By way of example, show how to make a sandwich and let her try it on her own, with no hovering or intervening. Encourage exploration, whether it is a trip to a park that is new or foods at mealtime. Day trips and outings can expand your child's horizons and build confidence in her ability. 2. Give praise where praise is due. It is important to give your child feedback especially young ones--by what you think, measure achievements and their worth. But be realistic in your compliments. If a child shows no talent at a specific skill or fails at something, praise the effort, but do not unrealistically praise the outcomes. Reassure your child that it's OK to not be able to do everything. Inform him that some things take practice and repeated effort --and sometimes it's OK to move on after you have given your very best effort. 9. Set rules and be consistent. Kids are more confident when they know what to expect and who's in charge. She will have confidence in what she can and can not do when you set rules and enforce them consistently, if your child thinks your rules are too strict. Every household will have rules that are different, and they will change over time according to your child's age. Learning and rules gives children a sense of safety and confidence. As kids get older they may have input on rules and responsibilities. But, it's important to keep in mind that you are the parent--not a very best friend. Someday if your child is feeling peer pressure, he or she might appreciate having the confidence and foundation to say,"No, I can't do that." Wouldn't it be nice if we can raise kids with compassion, spunk and the assurance of Little Orphan Annie? Sure, most children won't have to befriend and care for fellow orphans, outsmart a cold-hearted orphanage matron, live life on the roads or win the heart of billionaire"Daddy" Warbucks. But all children face some hard knocks, and it is important to equip them to not just survive, but thrive. 10. Coach relationship skills. The most important initial relationship is the relationship that is adoring. However, when she is affected by the actions of somebody else as your child circle expands, you will help her see how others affect -- and help her learn to maintain an inner core of assurance. Encourage other activities that are physical or sports. No longer the sole domain of boys, sports assist girls and boys build confidence. They learn that they enhance can practice and achieve goals. Advantages: accept or strengthen their flaws, they learn to recognize their strengths, manage defeat, expand their circle of friends and learn teamwork. Another bonus: they learn to respect their bodies and stay fit. Try to discover a physical activity that he or she enjoys, whether it's martial arts, dancing, biking or hiking. Help your child set realistic goals. It's fine for her to believe she will eventually be on the Olympic team when your child is starting out in soccer. But if she fails to make the varsity team in high school and still thinks she's an Olympic-caliber player, then she needs to concentrate on more realistic objectives. Guide your child to set goals that are reasonable to help avoid feelings of failure. Discuss some reachable short-term steps along the path if the goal is a stretch. 8. Confirm their pursuit of a fire. Everyone excels at something, and it is great when that something is discovered by your child. As a parent, encourage and respect your child's interests--even if you don't interest. Praise your child when they accomplish something in their budding pursuits. You can be creative while you praise your child such as complimenting them through your doorbell camera. Support his interest as it doesn't interfere with duties like schoolwork if your son's talent is playing guitar in a band. This doesn't mean that you give free reign for your adolescent to stay out all night or smoke pot in your garage, which brings us. It is possible to model this behavior by praising and rewarding yourself when you do. Whether you run a marathon, get a promotion at work or throw a successful dinner party, celebrate your successes with your kids. Talk about talents and the skills and efforts required for those achievements to be achieved by you. In the conversation, you can remind your child of the skills she or he possesses and how they can be used and developed.