How To Survive Being A Stepmom To A Teenager!
Dealing with teenagers can be hard, forget that it can actually be really, really hard! Especially for a blended family. When you are a stepmom to a teenager, you may feel like you are walking on eggshells. Well here are a few ways help to make the relationship work!
Teenagers can be the worst! They can be loud, smelly, unnervingly quiet and you are never quite sure where you stand with them… and this is if you are their parent! For a stepmom, it can be even worse. It can be hard to know what to say, how to deal with them, how to discipline and in general just how to make the relationship work. Well here are a few ways you can make it work.
Do Not Overreach
It is going to be on you to connect with them that is for sure. But do not try and force it too much. Teenagers need their space and if you try to talk to them and you can tell that they are in no mood to talk, ask them if there is anything you can do to help and then give them their space. Sometimes just letting them know you are there if they need you can go a lot further than dragging something out of them. You have to respect their privacy that is step parenting 101!
Be A Strong Role Model
Here is one that you can have full control of and that is how they see you as a mother, wife and as a person in general. Be the best you can be, let them see a real positive role model. Be nice, kind, help out and show how much you love their dad. Having a loving relationship is a great way to show a teenager what love is, especially if their mom and dad were arguing all the time.
Treat Them The Same As Your Own Kids
Your partner's kids are now your own kids and they should all be on the same level. This, of course, is easier said than done, but you have to try your best to have a general set of rules for everyone. This is something you and your partner will need to get on board with. Have a general set of rules that apply to everyone so no one feels like they are being singled out or treated unfairly. Because if a teenager feels like they are being treated unfairly, you better believe that you are going to be hearing all about it!
Get To Know Them
I know I said you need to give them their privacy, but you have to get to know them on a real personal level. Doing this is a house with a whole load of people can be really tough, especially if there are a few teenagers stomping around. Maybe pick them up after school one day and take them for a hot chocolate or something, ask them to help you pick out a new shirt, a present for their dad or even a present for one of the other kids. Get to know them one on one, show them that you value what they have to say, what their opinion is and them as a person.
Look, being a step parent to a teenager can be really tough, I know that better than anyone. But working at it, getting to know them and knowing when to give them their own space are all going to help you build a good relationship with them.