Spanking continues to be a very controversial subject. Whether you are for or against it, it is true that your cultural background as well as your generation may affect your views regarding spanking.
For the record, I am totally against spanking and I believe it is counter-productive and can cause long term harm. I have read enough articles and research to conclude that there are healthier ways to discipline.
Don’t get me wrong, we have all been there where we feel the internal rage building from our kids acting up and you just want to slap the heck out of them. It is human and totally normal to be annoyed and plain angry at your kid. However, from feeling this anger to acting on it by spanking them or using physical force is s very different thing.
In some cultures spanking and physical discipline is tolerated and even encouraged. I was raised in one of these cultures and have first- hand experience on the psychological damage that can cause and ineffective it can be.
In the United States Spanking has become less common but it is still prevalent. An ABC poll conducted last November showed that 65% of Americans approve of spanking. Research studies have shown that spanking0 is more prevalent in African American households than among other racial groups. Spanking is also more prevalent in the South than in other parts of the country.
But how does spanking specifically affect kids: Research shows that it can lead to aggressive behavior, stealing and lying in some cases, a higher likelihood of having mental issues such as anxiety and depression, and it could lead to child abuse as well.
I firmly believe that having a support group with other moms/dads can help lower the stress of dealing with kids’ behavior issues. I know from personal experience that talking it out with other moms, understanding that my kid is not the only one with the behavior and that it is totally normal to become angry has really helped me deal with my feelings of frustration and not get to the point where I even think about spanking her.
Sources: www.phoenixchildrens.org/community/injury-prevention-center/effective-discipline, www.beatingblackkids.com/