Adoption is a very intimate decision for an individual or couple to make and there are many motivating factors that lead individuals down the adoption path. Knowing some common reasons that people choose to adopt can help prospective parents that are on the fence about adoption make a more informed decision or help a mother understand the motivations behind the people she may choose to gift her child to.
Infertility or Chance of Dangerous Pregnancy
There are many different medical conditions or ailments that can contribute to someone’s inability to conceive or carry a child to term. Adoption may be this person’s or couple’s only safe chance to raise a child. In the US alone, about 9% of men and about 11% of women of reproductive age have experienced fertility problems. 1 in 10 women has a condition or circumstance that will produce a high-risk pregnancy. Single parent and two-parent homes alike can benefit from adoption in many ways. Perhaps most importantly, adopting a child can provide infertile or at-risk individuals with an experience they could not safely do themselves.
To Help Someone Unable to Raise a Child
As many adoption options as there are for prospective parents, there are even more numerous and complex situations that can lead someone to choose to offer their child up for adoption. Some people are not financially, emotionally, or physically capable of caring for a child. Things like being able to receive an education or pursue a career can be stunted by the unexpected birth of a child. Some parents may also have mental illness or drug addiction that can create an unsafe environment for raising a child. First-time or veteran parents may choose to take in the children of a parent who is unable to support them.
Help a Child in Foster Care
The proportion of children in foster care to the number of kids that end up finding an adoptive family is not as high as you may expect. Around 110,000 infants, toddlers, adolescents and everything in between are legally available for adoption in the U.S. foster care system. Sadly, over 20,000 of these kids will never find an adoptive family. A family or individual may choose to help one of these children in need to experience a more positive and stable environment.
Whether they choose to adopt domestically or internationally, many prospective adoptive parents recognize that they have what it takes to care and provide for a child that may have had a bumpy or even troubling upbringing. Adopting a child gives these people the opportunity to open their homes and hearts to a child in need
Single or Same-Sex Parents
LGBTQ couples cannot have genetically related children naturally. The IVF and surrogacy process will only allow one parent to be genetically related to the child. If some couples would rather each partner have no relation as opposed to only one partner being related, adopting is the perfect option. Many people not in a committed relationship still choose to be parents as well but may opt for adopting rather than using sperm or egg donation, a surrogate, or becoming pregnant themselves. Adopting can provide them that opportunity while also helping an existing child find a home.
Ability to Choose the Age or Gender
Some potential parents would rather raise an older child than raise one from infancy. It may be that they feel better equipped to deal with older children and would enjoy the challenges of an adolescent or teenage child as opposed to the trial of raising newborns or toddlers. While not all adoption agencies allow parents to pick the gender of the child, there are some organizations that do let them choose to adopt a boy or a girl. This is an especially good option for those parents who only have boys or only have girls to experience a child of the opposite sex without having to go through pregnancy or birth again.
Deciding to adopt a child or place a child up for adoption can be one of the most challenging yet rewarding events in a person’s life. No matter the reason, adoption can help a child in need to find a happy home.