Coping With a Loved One's Death
When you lose someone, it can be devastating. The loss of a loved one is something that no one can fully understand until they have experienced it. It can be difficult to describe and even more challenging to manage. For those who have never experienced death in their life, this may be an entirely new experience, full of emotions that you may not be sure how to navigate. If you are struggling with the recent loss of a loved one, here are a few things that you should know.
You Are Resilient
When you lose someone you love, it can feel like a devastating blow. Knowing that they are gone can feel like waves of loss, but you need to know that you are resilient. You can develop mental toughness and come through the other side. While losing someone that you care about can leave you feeling crushed and lost, you will come through and you will be stronger because of it. Coping takes time.
You May Experience it in Waves
While a loss often has acute tenderness and sadness when it initially occurs, the grieving process is something completely personal and individual. You may experience a sense of sadness in waves. There may be times when you feel fine, even happy and then others that feel like a crushing sense of despair. All of this is normal and the waves will eventually lessen and become less intense.
You Will Go Through Stages
While the grieving process is very individual and personal, there are typical stages of grief that many people experience throughout the process. While these are not definitive, prescriptive stages, they can help you identify the different feelings and challenges that you are experiencing. For many people, this is a brand new and often scary time, so understanding the typical process can be useful.
You Will Need Time
When you experience the death of someone you love, it is okay to need time to process. You don’t need to resolve all of your feelings right away and compartmentalize them. Grief is complicated and it can be a lengthy process. Don’t be afraid to give yourself time and space so that you can fully invest in the grieving process.
You Will Need Help
As you navigate loss, it can feel tempting to push people away, especially if you don’t want to share your pain and challenges with others. This is one of the times where you will need to ask and should not be ashamed to do so. With the grieving process as complicated as it is and how it can affect you so intensely, this is the time to rely on others. Don’t be afraid to turn toward your community to grieve as a group or ask for help from others or even enlist the help of professionals. Professional counseling can be incredibly useful after the loss of someone you love. While loss can come in many forms but affects everyone and often in different ways. It can be incredibly useful to have another perspective when diving into your grieving process, coping and resolving unresolved chapters.
You Need to Approach This Differently With Children
If children are involved, you will need to approach this a bit differently. While children are not protected from loss, teaching children how to cope with the loss of a loved one needs to be handled with even greater care. Depending on their age and development, they may or may not fully understand what is happening; however, you have the opportunity to help support them as they do.
When you lose someone, it can feel jarring and devastating. You don’t need to navigate this time alone though. Grieving can bring up so many feelings and memories, and you will need to be kind to yourself as you navigate their death. It is okay to miss them and want them to be around, but you need to make sure that you have the support, help and compassion to navigate this process.