A Guide to Distributing Chores Among Children (and their Siblings)
It can be hard to decide who does what chores. Who does the dishes? Who’s responsible for cleaning up the bathroom? Who vacuums? If your children are at the age where they can do chores and have siblings who are responsible for their own housework on occasion, how do you split it up so it’s fair? Here’s a couple of tips to distribute those chores evenly and make it a bit fair all around.
Keep a Chart
It can be hard to keep track of who has done their chores and who hasn’t if you have multiple children. If you see one of your children watching TV and another one cleaning their bedroom how do you know the child watching TV vacuumed the living room? Keeping a chart where you list everyone’s chores can help. Get your children into the habit of checking off when they’ve done their chore. Some children may do their work earlier so they can have more time later to play. Other children may prefer to do their chores later and need a bit more prompting to do them in a timely manner.
Have Children Take Turns
Another good way to distribute chores is to have the children takes turns doing each chore. Did your oldest child do the dishes? Maybe you can have his younger brother do it this time. While one child may be very good at doing the dishes the other might not have a lot of practice. So by having them take turns it can actually take a lot of stress off children. Also, switching the chores around from time to time can keep them from getting too bored with what they’re doing. It can also make the burden a bit easier if, say, it’s harder to clean the bathroom when cleaning the kitchen is a lot easier. So no one child is saddled with the “bad” chore.
Allow the Children to Delegate
Another good way to make sure all the chores get done is to encourage your children to discuss who does which chores. With supervision help them to decide who does certain chores for the week or day. Even try to have a “cleaning” day where everyone pitches in to clean the whole house. That way the major chores are done all in one day and won’t have be done again for a couple of days. For daily chores, for example doing dishes let the children decide who does each one. Or who needs more practice to do them so they can get better at washing the dishes in the future.
These are just some common tips. Keep trying to find out what works best for you and your children. Whether it’s a chart, having a to-do list, or even just giving one of your children a reminder to clean their room is fully up to you. Keep trying, and eventually you and your children will find what works best for everyone.