Healthy Steps To Take After a Breakup
We’ve all been there. A breakup is one of the hardest things to go through in life, whether it’s your first one or your hundredth, whether you are 16 or 65. There are no magic words that will get you through this difficult time, and there’s no way you can just skip over the grieving process. But there are some steps you can take to try to make yourself feel better.
Do Something Healthy for Yourself
Maybe you’ve been thinking of joining a yoga class or buying a healthy product from unify health. This may be the perfect chance to give it a try! Exercise has so many benefits, one of which is that it releases chemicals that make you feel better. Add to that how proud you will be that you did something that is good for your health. And, if you are having trouble sleeping because of the breakup, getting a real good workout can help exhaust you.
Do Something Fun for Yourself
You may find it difficult to even get out of bed for the first couple of weeks after a breakup, and that’s fine. But after some time has passed, do something that you truly enjoy. Even better, do something that you never had the time to do when you were with your significant other. Get back into a hobby you used to enjoy, or try a new hobby you were always curious about.
Let Yourself Grieve
Don’t expect to bounce back a couple of days after the breakup. In the end, trying to skip the grieving process might just make things worse. A breakup is a lot like a loved one passing, and, although everyone is different, it can take weeks or months until you feel better. Don’t rush yourself, and don’t put pressure on yourself to feel back to "normal” within a certain period of time.
Don’t Jump Into a New Relationship
It might be tempting to jump back into the dating scene, but this is something you should really put thought into. It might be a good idea to take this chance to analyze some things in your life and decide what you really want from a relationship.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to friends and family and let them know what is going on. Cry on their shoulder. Let them comfort you. Let them help you drown your sorrows in chocolate. Or, you may consider seeing a counselor, even for just a few sessions. It can help a lot just to have someone to talk to.
Try To See the Good in It
Granted, this won’t be easy right after the breakup – it might not even be easy months and months after the breakup. But maybe, just maybe, is there some good in what happened? It may be helpful to think of another event that was traumatic when it happened, but then much later you realized it was a good thing (like the time you were let go from your job, only to be hired at your dream company a short time later). At the very least, just trying to see the good in this traumatic event will get your mind moving toward positive things. Even if you can’t keep it up for very long, just starting the process is a step in the right direction.
Realize That It Will Get Better (Someday)
It is hard to imagine that there will ever be an end to the pain and the grief, and it probably seems like you’ll never feel better. But someday you will get through this! Keep looking forward to that day, and don’t forget that it is going to happen!
Breakups are incredibly difficult to deal with. You are mourning not only the past, but all of the dreams you had for the future. Allow yourself time to deal with all of your emotions, take care of yourself, and let others help you. It will take time, but eventually you will overcome the pain.